Archive for SELF-ACCEPTANCE
In this Personal Leadership Series, Jonette Crowley, author and principle of Enlightened Leadership Solutions, presents five tools to assist us in flying, rather than falling during critical times—times of chaos, confusion and conflict.
Following is Tool Number 1.
The number one point during critical times should be number one at any time: Self Acceptance.
We can read about this in every how-to book in every bookstore, but it doesn’t mean we’re any better at it. Self-Acceptance. First, Self-Acceptance starts with actually looking at you. You can’t accept yourself if you’re looking in every other direction than inside. In critical times step number one is surrendering to what is—not necessarily agreeing with it, but not resisting or fighting it. That puts you in yourself. It takes you away from the conflict. When you’re focused on your smallness or darkness then you can’t see your grandness. When you focus on your grandness, sometimes you deny the smallness. Darkness, shadow, and light – it takes them all to make a photo. You are all. Surrender to what is. Self-Acceptance.
Think of three current and specific things that are grand about you, that are great, that you’re proud of. You may notice that each one has a specific feeling associated with it. Whatever the feeling is, one at a time let the feeling of those qualities move into your cells until they totally merge with who you are.
Think of three things about you that are your shadow side, things that might be a little dark about you. Think of specific things – only three though. You can be honest; no one is listening to your head. Those have feelings too. They are different than the first 3 feelings in their quality and tone. One at a time, accept those three things as qualities that merge and dissolve into your cells. Self-Acceptance. Notice how you feel. Did those dark things destroy the grand things, or did it make you feel more whole, stable, full, and honest? When you accept not just the idea but also the feeling of all of you, you’re stronger. Accept all of you. If you were perfect you would have wings and a harp. No one ever asked you to be perfect, they ask you to be perfectly you! Feel the solidity and strength of yourself now. Self-Acceptance, the number one tool in critical times.
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Jonette Crowley and the Enlightened Leadership Team